HOW BEING DESPERATE CAN BECOME CRIPPLING

HOW BEING DESPERATE CAN BECOME CRIPPLING:   From Wonder Women Herself!!

Being women I have experience times where I realized that I was alone. That could bring some anxiety to some realizing that it is a fact. What can really scare you is when you don't see a change in your circumstances anytime soon. Learning how to be comfortable with your situation while allowing this time to be a growth process instead of feeling desperate. That would be ideal instead of swimming in your own agony.  Many tend to have to feel a void somehow or some way. Whether it's going out on social scenes every night of the week or even using promiscuity as a substitute for being alone. These are all dangerous, especially on how we view our selves. If you are incomplete by yourself how could be a fulfillment for someone else when they finally come into your life.

 Being whole is a part of becoming women. It's not about independence; own house, own car, two jobs but its learning to be happy with yourself by embracing your current situation. A lot of times women do not feel the need not to go out and enjoy life because no one is there. Instead of waiting for a man to call you to go out on a date take yourself on one. Appreciate your own company Why wait?? Some women don't even try to keep their selves up if they’re not dating anyone. You should look red carpet ready everyday not to the extreme but you know what I mean. Look good for you, eat healthy, exercise do the things you always wanted to do. Allow this time you have alone to become empowering and discover things inside of you that you didn't know you even had their, fulfill your passions and desires put you first. When you get into a habit where your jumping from relationship to relationship it can take away from your inner self then add.

 Many would put up with so much trama in their lives just for the sake of having someone. Even if it's a situation where there could be abuse involved or even infidelity. This is also very unhealthy cycle to introduce when there are children involved from previous relationships this could be detrimental for a child’s upbringing. I have seen it over and over again when the child grows animosity towards the parents because of their choices.

 When you can't learn to be alone you never get to your full potential in life there will always be some sort of brokenness in you. Men can sense this type of women and   usually would not allow themselves to become seriously involved. Men are searching for strong women who have her own identity. This would mean they could grow and accomplish things together. Once you grasp hold of your life being single then you will realize what your worth is. It will not be determined by a relationship any longer you will define it. Your mind and standards will change this is all a part of becoming a whole women. When that special person do come along you will be ready emotionally to handle a mature and fulfilling relationship.

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Melanie Fiona