As I was recently reading the daily headlines I came across an article about a CNN news correspondent Don Lemon, stating to the public that he was gay in his new book. I was in complete shock saying to myself not another black male that have drifted to the other side. Being an activist in many genres including equal rights for all people, I have no personal issues with this but, It brought some sadness to me due to the fact the trouble African American woman has encountered trying to find a life partner. It seems if though many of our man have forsaken us.
I understand that childhood sexual abuse can cause a child to be forever torn, I’m sure we all have experience this type of behavior or know someone who has. Is this really the underline reason for the epidemic of black gay males in our society? I decided to dig a little bit deeper, when I sat back and did my own observation I noticed that many gay boys turned men have grown up in fatherless environments. They have been raised by none other then women who are sisters, moms, aunts and grandmothers.
Young boys tend to model after what they see, their greatest influence in their everyday life…that is the nature of a male child. Many would disagree because all boys raised by a woman are not gay, that is a true statement, but the numbers are staggering. They seem to be more confused about there sexuality or don’t know the first thing about how to be a man. This is a hard pill to swallow knowing the percentage of single motherhood in the African American community. It has become so normal that many women have embraced these men and except them as there girlfriend.
You are a true trendsetter to have a gay male best friend on your arm. This shows how much our communities are in the danger zone. As a parent of a male child I know the importance of a positive male influence in their life could mean life or death. We must not point fingers at one another for this serious condition that have unfolded right in front of our eyes, but that take responsibility for our actions today. Do not take a blind eye to this epidemic but open your eyes and look around and decide to take steps toward changing our destructive pattern, that have caused many male boys to seek love from a man. They should have received this at home from there fathers.
I have read some reports concerning this issue, their have been no known studies that have prove this logic to be completely true. Saying this is the cause for this epidemic in our young boys, is just an opinion. When everyone enters this world they are taught to be whoever they want to be. If they are never taught how to be, who they really are, with no example of their self identity, how will they ever know who they are? Once confused it will be a trickling effect of experimentations that can be forever daunting.
Single moms must take time and evaluate your male child thought patterns to see what there lacking and work on fulfilling those needs either through mentorship or by a trusted male influence.
With this cycle their will a continual pattern of down low brothers, believe it, it’s reality. With more boys that are being raised this way, this will cause our young girls to lack the man they deserve. Our women will continue to have trouble finding a man, to be the head of the home that we deserve and desire.
Another~ Era Nichole Exclusive
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